Embrace the social teachings of Islam by rethinking modern individualism.

Embrace the social teachings of Islam by rethinking modern individualism.

Believing Women & Family

As Muslims, we strive to fulfill the rights of Allah Most High and the rights of His servants. The rights of His servants (huquq al-‘ibad) are extremely important because these include how we treat our families, namely the people closest to us. How can a woman fulfill her role as a wife, mother, daughter, and sister in the best and most pleasing way to Allah?

Join us for our next Q&R session with Ustadha Umm Sahl, an experienced and knowledgeable female scholar, to get insights and answers to your personal questions.

Questions Answered:

  1. How do we know as women know how to serve in a way pleasing to Allah, but at the same time, keep healthy boundaries for ourselves?
  2. Umm Sahl, I was told the story of a woman who devoted herself to her husband and family to the point of neglecting herself. She would prepare elaborate meals for her husband and take great care of her house, yet her husband grew averse to her because of her poor appearance. What would you say to such a woman? To remedy her situation?
  3. Assalamualikum wa rahmatullah Umm Sahl, can you please advise us on how to deal with lingering upset or anger with family members for past fights or hurts?
  4. Assalam aleikum Umm Sahl. I have a question related to sibling who has periods of drug abuse that literally puts everyone on edge, it’s brought his marriage to the brink (he has children from 11-7), my parents are stressed beyond belief (they are devout and practising) they turn to Allah a lot. What do you advise for such families that have one person that puts everyone else off-track? My bro has some good qualities but this part of him drags us all down.
  5. I am 39 years old, married and do not yet have children. My health is not the best and I am currently working full time and going to grad school full time. I have to work full time at the moment. I am not sure if I should continue school or not, given that I am under a lot of stress and do want to try to have a child if I can. I am studying Islamic Leadership and Chaplaincy.
  6. Assalamu alaikum. how does one entertain teenagers in a halal manner. and entertain oneself in a halal manner
  7. We moved to Riyadh from the US last year. the main reason was to give my seven children the Arabic language and a different environment, in addition to being close to the haramain. My husband loves it and I would like to stay as well. However, my parents are back home and although they have two girls there, one at walking distance, they still miss me and my children a lot. My mother especially is miserable without me, so I have been told. I know that if I refuse to stay here,my husband will agree. Should I do that or just let him make the decision and I follow and support him where ever he wants to be as I have always done.
  8. Umm Sahl, what do you say if a family wants to raise their children in a certain country, but a husband has to go elsewhere to make a living? This assumes they have a choice to stay together or not, and both husband and wife want this.
  9. Assalamualay kum.Please could you give advice on dealing with in laws, the roles and responsibilities.


Ustadha Umm Sahl

Born and raised in New Zealand, and of Albanian descent, Ustadha Umm Sahl left with her family to live in Turkey in 1982, where she met her first sheikh in tasawwuf, Ihsan Effendi of Zeytinburnu, Istanbul, whose student she remained until his death in 1991. In 1983, she traveled to Egypt to study Arabic, where she lived for three years. In 1986, she married her husband Nuh Ha Mim Keller and moved to Amman, Jordan. She studied Hanafi Fiqh and hadith terminology with Sheikh Shuayb Arnaut; Hanafi Fiqh and ‘Aqida with Sheikh Ahmad al-Jammal; Tajwid with Sheikh Ibrahim Rumana; and for the last 10 years, she has been studying Tafsir, Arabic grammar, Balagha, and Islamic Inheritance with Sheikh ‘Ali Hani. In 1992, she joined the Shadhili tariqa of Sheikh Abdur-Rahman ash-Shaghouri, and was his student until his death in 2004. At present, she studies and teaches, helps her husband in his translation projects, and the running of the Zawiya of Abul Hasan ash-Shadhili in Amman.